Being Attractive Is Easier Than You Think

The Attraction Doctor, Jeremy Nicholson, M.S.W., Ph.D, has come up with six simple steps to improving your appearance and becoming more beautiful.

How to be attractive and improve your appearance

1) Grooming – by far, the most important feature. Take some time to care for yourself. Shower, style your hair, and shave or trim where you need to. Be clean, neat, and smell good too. Grooming alone can make (or break) your attractiveness - and all it takes is a bit of time, effort, and a toothbrush!

2) Clothing – also important and a relatively easy fix is your style. The research says that three aspects of clothing are required to be attractive – neat, well fitting, and more formal. Put plainly, your clothes need to be clean, pressed, and well maintained. They also need to fit you well and flatter your shape. Finally, they should be a little classy. Don't be chronically "under-dressed"...buy some dressier gear. Also, the color red is a good choice (see here).

3) Posture – practice standing up straight. Hold your head up. Put your shoulders back. Buy some sensible shoes, a good desk chair, or a corset if you need to. Good posture is sexy. It also contributes to the right body language for dating and relating (see here).

4) Attitude – remember to put on a happy face. Smile. Be pleasant, positive, and friendly. Heck, a good personality can even overshadow other physical issues you may have (see here). So, be happy...and get a date or keep a lover.

5) Fitness – granted, this isn't as easily "changeable" as the others (at least for me). But, the research is not talking about the "perfect butt" or "washboard abs" anyway. Essentially, we're shooting for "relatively healthy" (e.g. not super obese, no severely protruding stomach, etc.). So, no need to obsess and go overboard. But, do your best to eat well, move around a bit, and care for your health. Good grooming, the right clothes, and standing up straight can go a long way towards minimizing what diet and exercise don't too!

6) Gender – generally, try to look masculine or feminine (depending on who you want to attract). To be more masculine, muscle up your shoulders and chest (or wear a nice, padded, sport coat). Grow a goatee, chin-strap, or beard to hide a weak jaw. To be more feminine, learn to properly apply makeup – accentuating your eyes and lips. Also, grow your hair longer (or just get extensions).

Conclusion

Who knew the Jersey Shore folks had the secret to attraction with G.T.L. (gym, tanning, and laundry). 

Although they can't seem to manage relationships (see here), they do have a point about taking care of yourself. 

You don't need a washboard abs "situation", or double D implants though...just a little time, care, and effort.

Groom well, buy some clothes that fit, stand up straight, smile, and be healthy. That's all it takes to be attractive, sexy, and get a date or mate. You can take the plastic surgeon off your speed dial now, stop obsessing...and go have some fun :)

Published on November 2, 2011 by Jeremy Nicholson, M.S.W., Ph.D. in The Attraction Doctor
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